fix(go/adbc/drivermgr): adjust ingest helper to set target before BindStream

[arnoldwakim]

Summary

Reorder IngestStream and IngestStreamContext to set OptionKeyIngestTargetTable and OptionKeyIngestMode before calling BindStream, matching drivers that require ingest targets up front (e.g., FlightSQL).

Keep all other ingest option handling and execution flow unchanged.

Evidence (FlightSQL requirement):

go/adbc/driver/flightsql/flightsql_statement.go:630-656:

func (s *statement) BindStream(_ context.Context, stream array.RecordReader) error {
	// For bulk ingest, bind to the statement
	if s.targetTable != "" {
		if s.bound != nil {
			s.bound.Release()
			s.bound = nil
		}
		if s.streamBind != nil {
			s.streamBind.Release()
		}
		s.streamBind = stream
		if s.streamBind != nil {
			s.streamBind.Retain()
		}
		return nil
	}

	if s.prepared == nil {
		return adbc.Error{
			Msg:  "[Flight SQL Statement] must call Prepare or set IngestTargetTable before calling Bind",
			Code: adbc.StatusInvalidState}
	}

	// calls retain
	s.prepared.SetRecordReader(stream)
	return nil
}

The current non-patched code, raises the error:

[Flight SQL Statement] must call Prepare or set IngestTargetTable before calling Bind